“May the Lord cut off all flattering lips, And the tongue that speaks proud things” -Psalms 12:3
I read a quote today and, despite the oddness of its context, I took it to heart. It said, “Don’t let your enemies make their home between your ears.” I thought this was so clever. It simply means, don’t let anyone get in your head. And I think this goes beyond the people who want to see you fall. I think it also goes for those who flatter you.
I keep thinking back to my childhood. During the countless hours that my father sat on a rickety bucket, donning the catcher’s gear, and taking a rise ball beating from me, he taught me something. Obviously criticism can get in your head, but even a compliment can leave you overthrowing and sending a ball sailing over the backstop.
It’s a mental game.
Physical strength has always been important to me because I feel that is where I draw my confidence. When you look good, you feel good. Coincidentally, as I was running today, I worked out mentally. Meaning that I would make myself think of times in my life when I was completely confident in everything. Now, I’m a pretty confident person as is, but I’m referring to those moments in which I felt utterly unstoppable. I challenged myself to take those moments and recreate them in my head, over and over again. Forming a kind of muscle memory for my mind.
Those times included when I was pitching, when I gave a speech at my high school graduation, when I was living in New York, when I left my boyfriend speechless in a blue formal dress on our vacation, among others. I painted the entire picture of those moments in my mind, including the temperature outside. And although I’m not aware of any scientific research to support it, I believe that by doing this, I created some feel-good endorphins.
People are always going to say what they want to say.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” I believe this was a much more eloquent way to say what I read earlier today. Don’t let the haters or the flatterers get to you…
And above all, don’t become one yourself.